Did you know that things that happened in our past can shape who we are?
Did you also know that you change how those situations affected you?
You either are completely lost or think I’m absolutely crazy, so let me explain.
When I was in junior high I ran track, and I qualified for the championship race. What this means is that I ran a certain time that allowed me to compete in the championship.
Well, I ran that time once, and my fear of not being able to do it again kept from competing.
I told my parents how scared I was of running the race, and they gave me permission to not go to the race.
In hindsight, I can see now that they gave me permission to not push myself and to be ok with mediocrity.
This theme of being ok with things just as they are runs rampant throughout my life.
In school I could’ve applied myself more and received better grades, but I was satisfied with the grades I was getting.
In sports I was ok with how I was performing and didn’t see a need to push myself.
In my career I took the jobs that came to me, did what I was told and quietly would complain about the work.
As much as I was ok with this mediocre life, deep down I had a lot of questions. I wasn’t fully satisfied with a satisfactory life.
Yet, I had suppressed this urge for me for so long that I didn’t even know how to access it as an adult.
Fast forward to becoming a mom, and my drive just went through the roof.
My frustration with the way working moms are treated, and how being a mom isn’t accepted in the world just added fuel to the fire.
My actions started small with fighting for myself by proposing to work from home on both maternity leaves. Then to realizing that as a working mom I wasn’t respected in my office. It was looked down upon when I needed to leave early and pick up a sick kid, or I turned down a work trip to attend an event with my son.
My mind was whirling with questions!
I was beyond frustrated!!
So what did I do?
I started to looking for a new way to live my life.
To live life on my terms.
I learned that I’m not ok with mediocrity and it was time to change my story!
It was time to stand up for myself!
It was time to bring a voice to working moms everywhere!
I started to recognize that there is a better way to live life.
By listening to podcasts and reading books by people who were doing what I wanted, I started to see the possibilities.
These people gave me hope and permission to go after my dreams.
With this confidence and new voice I was able to take back all the years I thought mediocrity was the way of the world.
To see that it’s ok to be in the spotlight.
It’s ok to give a voice to the voiceless!
It’s ok to be who I want to be even if it means upsetting other people, especially those closest to me.
It’s ok to change who I was for the first 3 decades of my life, and become someone else.
This change did not happen overnight, but over the last few years I’ve been given permission time and time again to stand my ground.
I’ve learned valuable lessons along the way, that I take with me on this journey of life.
I no longer live in a world that if something is scary to back away.
I no longer live in a way that says avoiding frustration is ok.
Is there a story you are telling yourself?
Is there a fear that is holding you back?
What it is?
Recognize it. Write it down.
How would you prefer to live life?
Then start following people who are doing what you want.
Listen to their stories, read their books, and listen to their podcasts.
Fill your head with what you want out of life, rather than what you can’t have.
Just because you have lived one way for years, doesn’t mean you can’t shift or pivot. Because I’m living proof to say that you can!!!
Create the life you want, and step up to become who you are meant to be!!!