You can take all the
actions you want, but if your mindset isn’t there than your actions won’t
Think of this like all
those new year’s resolutions you’ve made that never stuck. You know the ones
you repeat year after year.
This is because in
order to change your habits, or break those patterns, you must first change
your mindset. By changing your mindset I’m talking about changing your identity
and breaking old patterns.
Let me share a personal
For years I have been
trying to budget effectively and learn how to save money. Every time I tried
and I failed. I always fell back into old patterns. My pattern is that we have
lots of money, than we have no money. During times of high income we spend,
spend, spend, and pay off all the big bills. Then all of sudden the money is
gone and we attempt to pinch pennies. The latter part of pinching pennies comes
with lots of regret and frustration. It also includes jealousy of others who
don’t live like this.
I read books, I
budgeted, we paid off debt. Yet, we have always accumulated more debt.
This was our pattern.
After years of living
like this I decided to take a different approach.
For the month of
February I went all in working on my mindset and my identity around money. One
of my focuses was also manifesting more money.
disappointment when the end of the month came and we were pinching pennies
Typically in this
situation I would start by updating our budget looking where we spent our
money, and deciding areas we needed to cut the budget. Then I would completely
fail cutting those things because I was annoyed that we had to live like this.
Instead this time
around I leaned into all the tools I have been using including meditation,
affirmations, emotional freedom technique or tapping, oracle cards, and prayer.
Rather than focusing on
action items like budgeting, I focused on being that person who is wealthy,
abundant and grateful.
Suddenly I found myself
learning a very big lesson! I didn’t receive more money, but I learned that I
had to endure this situation of pinching pennies to teach me about sacrifice.
To find my limiting
belief around spending money out of frustration, rather than accepting that
right now I need to make a sacrifice. I also didn’t just learn the lesson, I
was given an opportunity to put this lesson into practice.
During all of this
mindset work, my car, which is 11 years old, was ready to say goodbye. So here
we are pinching pennies and either having to dump a ton of money into an old
car, or get a new car.
Well, we decided the
best option was to get a new car, and to lease a new car. I came up with a max
number we could afford to pay monthly. I really really really wanted an SUV.
After some research we found an SUV that was advertising a lease price of
$160-$180. My excitement was through the roof!
I was starting to feel
better. That was until I got to the dealership and realized that this wasn’t
actually an option. Essentially they were advertising 2018 model cars for
lease, when in reality at this time of year they don’t have any 2018 cars in
After 3 hours at the
car dealership, trying to work the best deal I could, getting frustrated,
feeling the pressure from the sales guys, I had to put in practice exactly what
I had been working on the last month.
It was time to
sacrifice what I wanted and put our budget before my wants and desires.
To accept this took me
a few hours. I was definitely upset, but through all the mindset work I was
able to make this decision, feel really good about it and reframe my thoughts
I went from sad and
disappointed, to really happy and excited. I’m upleving so big going from a
2008 car to a brand 2019 car!! No more worries of it breaking down and having
to get towed.
That vision of the car
I really want is still there, but I’ve realized that it’s ok to not have it
right now. To sacrifice getting it now so that I can live peacefully, within
our budget, and then one day getting that exact car I want will be even more
If I hadn’t done all
this work on my mindset I can definitely say I would have went with the more
expensive car because that was my pattern. Wanting something badly and being
frustrated that we couldn’t afford it but buying it anyway.
I am breaking that
pattern and creating a new identity for myself around money. That feels
Yesterday I got the
car, and it just felt so darn good driving around in yesterday!
I learned such a
valuable lesson in all this and my vibes are still riding super high!!!
Is there a pattern you
see in your life? One that you keep repeating, but can’t seem to break. Is it
around money? Your health and wellness?
Take time to look at
this pattern, figure out why you keep doing this, and determine your limiting
belief that’s holding you back. Then take the time to work on your mindset
around this thing, then the actions will follow easily, and you’re more likely
to stick with this new way if you work on your mindset first.
It’s never too late to
change your mindset and your identity!!!