I remember after having my first son in 2012, that I was back at my pre-pregnancy weight by 6 months. I wasn’t really doing anything special, my body just seemed to bounce back! Because of the amazing first experience I was banking on this happening again with my second kid.
Nope, not even close. My youngest is 3 and I’m still hanging onto about 15lbs (which was 20lbs just about 2 months ago – slow moving progress, but progress nonetheless).
This post isn’t about weight loss though.
What I want to share with you is the fact that I believe…no I know that the reason I bounced back so quickly the first time was because I under much less stress the first time around. When my son was 6 months old I was leaving my full-time job to work part-time. I was stressed while home on my maternity, but I only worked for about 6 weeks before I got this part-time gig. I didn’t spend a significant amount of time working full-time.
This post isn’t also to say that you need to work part-time in order to lose weight either.
But I promise I’ll get to why I’m sharing this story with you.
I returned to full-time employment when my first son was 18 months old and I was newly pregnant with my second son (great timing, huh? LOL). Don’t worry they knew I was planning to have another kid pretty quickly when they hired me, although I don’t believe they anticipated that quickly.
This time around I was in a job I enjoyed so after my second son was born I went right back into full-time work and was excited to go back. Yet this time my body did not bounce back as I hoped. I didn’t worry about it until he was about 9 months old and I was ready to do something about it.
I did a nutritional reset challenge which got me bloated and constipated from all the raw veggies. Got over that and tried some new workouts. T25 was huge for me a few years ago so I gave it another go, but just wasn’t feeling the intensity of it. Then I tried cutting back on the cardio and lifting more heavy weights. With this I definitely got stronger, but still no movement in weight or my figure (*ahem* I was waiting for the fat loss that never came).
After about a year and a half I was pissed and frustrated. I hired a hormonal nutritionist that gave me some great advice, but still no change. Then I started to notice that I was constipated and when I was constipated I looked like I was 6 months pregnant.
Finally the light bulb went off!
This wasn’t a weight issue, it was a digestion issue.
I got on a daily probiotic and saw minor improvement. I became obsessed with digestion essential oils, using them multiple times a day with only minor improvement. I turned to prunes and prune juice, then to detox teas. If there was a solution for constipation I tried it. They all helped in a minor way but nothing was solving the issue and it just kept returning.
My frustration only grew as each solution proved to work only temporarily. I began to realize that this is beyond what I’m eating or drinking or how I’m moving, it’s because I’m stressed.
I had been keeping an eye on a natural healthcare practitioner in my area, and decided it was time to make an appointment.
There I was desperate to make this go away, and here was my solution.
It was not an immediate resolution, but as I continued to go I began to notice minor changes in myself, not just physically but mentally as well. I was able to handle stress easier, I was breathing more deeply throughout my day and not just during meditation in the morning.
Then I decided to leave my full-time job and start my business. I continued going to the doctor and I continued to see improvement. Little by little I was getting better. My constipation was occurring less often and when it did occur, it didn’t linger for days like before.
I’m eating more cheese and gluten foods now, and am rarely constipated and bloated. I actually went for a lactose test today, even though I figured it was going to be negative. I made the appointment about 2 months ago so I figured I’d go through with it anyway.
Since August I have lost about 5lbs, but even more than that I feel better. I no longer look 6 months pregnant constantly. My clothes fit better and I can feel a waistline returning.
I’m still stressed, because trust me being an entrepreneur and giving up my income stability was not an easy decision. Living off of one-income for a family of 4 is tough, but yet that stress isn’t bothering my digestion.
My digestion is better because I am living in alignment.
My work/life balance is as it should be, as it was 5 years ago when I working part-time and felt amazing!
Our physical body reacts to our mental health. When we are in an unhealthy place mentally, our physical body will show us signs. For me that sign was in my digestion, and trust me when it creeps in I can tell it’s at a time when there is high-stress in my life. Luckily for me I continue to see my natural health care doctor, but I also have the tools on my own to recognize what is happening and correct it.
You would be amazed at how the mind and body are connected. If you are feeling ill, or not well, it might not be that sushi you ate (I mean it might be), but even a minor cold as I had this weekend can be a sure sign that your body is telling you to sit down and relax. It is your body’s way of forcing you to do what it needs done in that moment. If you listen for the signs early on, than you can avoid the much larger ones that will scream at you instead.